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John K. Wilson's avatar

Redstone argues that democracy “cannot survive if one side dismisses the other as racist, crazy, or hateful.” But what if someone is racist, crazy, or hateful (like Trump is)? Does it really save democracy if we politely lie to protect the sensitive feelings of racists?

It’s true that the “instinct is to argue that the right/left has lost its mind and therefore deserves to be ignored/silenced/condemned.” But that’s also the centrist instinct of people like Stephens who want to condemn the extremists of both sides and make them shut up so that moderates can have a polite discussion about modest differences of opinion.

The solution is not censorship (or self-censorship) of harsh criticism, but to de-couple that natural link between opposing someone’s ideas and trying to silence them. Once we say that certain offensive things should not be said, we run the risk of repression by those in authority. If we teach people not to punish their political enemies, but instead to engage with and argue against their ideas, then we can achieve the best path to democratic engagement without demanding censorship (and self-censorship) of extremism as a false shortcut.

This is the essential distinction between politeness and civility. Politeness requires self-censorship (and direct censorship of the impolite). Politeness is about maintaining decorum and avoiding conflict. Civility means living in a civil society. It means engaging with critics, and responding to differences intellectually rather than with violence, repression, or censorship. If someone says mean things about you and you seek to have them sued or imprisoned or fired, then they are guilty of impoliteness and you are guilty of incivility. Politeness requires that you shouldn’t call someone racist, crazy, or hateful. Civility requires that you shouldn’t seek to have the haters punished. The path to saving democracy is by rejecting a regime of politeness and embracing one of civility.

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STANTON W GREEN's avatar

I agree that the distinction between the MAGA and other GOPers is essential. Biden has been extremely careful in doing this. To my mind the danger is for the democrats being shy about calling out Trump’s threats (the latest yesterday). Jan 6 was a near end to the American Republic. So my advice to Mr. Stephen’s is to remember Jews such as he are first on the list for Trumps minions. Trump counts on the Dems contemplating their collective navels.

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